Like wine, friends are there when you don't want to keep things bottled up. I had the pleasure of sitting down with my friend and fellow wine lover, Lia from A Girl In Her Thirties to discuss overcoming health issues and doing what you love over a glass of The Dreaming Tree Cabernet Sauvignon.
Cheers and thanks for watching!
Note: please excuse any grammatical errors.
Nat: Guys, thank you for tuning in to this Inspirational Wine Moment with Lia from A Girl In Her Thirties. Lia, thank you for being here today.
Lia: Thank you for having me.
Nat: Lia is an amazing writer and kick-ass blogger. Check out her blog when you get a chance. "A Girl in her Thirties."
Today we are unwinding with "The Dreaming Tree", this Cabernet Sauvignon. You can actually get it at most retailers, Publix, pretty much anywhere.
The wine is great. It has aromas of berries. It has mouthwatering tannins. It's supple and it's really great for any occasion so pick it up when you are at the store.
Nat: Today, I wanted Lia to share her story with you, Lia.
Lia: I was diagnosed at the age of 21 being a newlywed with Hepatitis C. I've never talked about it because there is this stigma because it is considered an STD but actually I contracted it from a blood transfusion I had at the age of 2. I didn't know I had been dealing with this sickness for years.
Now all of a sudden I have this diagnosis. My husband becomes my primary care giver. The worst part was the side effects of the treatment and the actual going through it. It gave me a slew of health issues and just changed the course of my life physically.
Nat: I just recently found out about Lia's health story and it was very moving and inspirational because I think most of us have dealt with some sort of health issue. Yes, some worst than others. But at the end of the day, they really impact your personal and your career life. So, you really have to find a way to really deal with it and cope with it, to move ahead and not let it impact everything.
I really appreciate you sharing that of course. No matter what we've been through, no matter how big or small, I believe that we are all capable of moving ahead and being the strongest version of ourselves. But at times, self-doubt kicks in and I am sure we've all experienced this.
Lia, how do you overcome self-doubt?
Lia: This is actually a blog post on "Impostor Syndrome" on my blog. The first thing I learned is it's natural. It's something most women feel because of society and so many things but what I do is I've learned to celebrate my successes.
I've learned that it's a little bit of grace and maturity. It's understanding that when you achieve something great or small, you've done it. So you have to celebrate it. You have to toot your own horn a little bit. And so, what I'll do is I'll post it, I'll share it.
I am not afraid of telling people this is what I did today. And that has helped me little by little become more comfortable with my successes. Because when you experience self-doubt, it's because it's kind of comfortable. That can lead to self-sabotage. So rather than sabotaging yourself, you have to celebrate yourself. There you go.
Nat: Very true. You know, I actually saw a post on Facebook not too long ago. And it was a great post because it really... It was a woman that shared just, "Go out there, share your successes. If you love your husband, your partner, share it. If you are comfortable in your own skin, share those selfies." You know, where some people may look at that like it's a little too much. You know what? It's a confidence boost. So...
Lia: Yes. Exactly.
Nat: Share away. Don't put so much mind into you know, really caring about what people think. It's your life. And if that is what is going to make you happy. And you know, give you that boost of confidence, do it. So I love that.
What would you say is the biggest challenge you face right now as a young professional?
Lia: So I am doing a lot of different things. You know, I have a career. And then, I am also pursuing this passion project, this writing, a book in the works, hopefully and my blog. And so, it can get to be a bit much.
So I am struggling with finding a balance. I don't want to forsake my family, my husband, my spirituality, the things that I know are priority. But at the same time, I know that I need to explore myself, my passion. And I know that I need to pursue my passion. So I am trying to not lose focus from what I know is important in my life right now.
Nat: You know, I think for anyone and just women in general. I think we are... we were just built differently than men. Sorry men. You know, we are strong and we can over... We can balance life and career. And some of us, I don't have kids yet. But some of us have kids and everything. We just balance so much. We are pretty bad ass.
But at the end of the day, life and career and everything going on in our life can get really stressful. So Lia, tell our viewers how you cope with stress. How do you cope with stress? How do you unwind?
Lia: Well, like I said earlier, I do have this health issue. So when I feel stressed I tend to experience it in my body. And I do have a tendency to feel pain and shut down.
So I found three things that have worked for me. I take breaks when I need to. So I don't try to take on too much. If I know I am either having a bad day or I know that I need to take a little break.
I've also found retreats. I do a lot of Miami exploring. And I found places that are my own, where I can go and just think, meditate, take a moment for myself. And when I have those little moments it kind of refuels you to keep going. And of course, there is the writing. You want to... fo me it's been having a creative outlet, having a way to perceive my world. So writing has definitely helped cope with stress.
Nat: Awesome. Yes. We all have different ways to really unwind and cope with stress. So it's really finding those things that work for you and just really making sure that it becomes part of your priority list.
Nat: You kind of like self-care and take care of yourself because that is really how you become the strongest version of yourself at the end of the day. So before we go, I... You know, Lia, I really would like you to tell the viewers any advise that you would give. Any advice to professionals that you would give before you would go today.
Lia: Yes. One of the things I'll say is find a mentor. On my blog, I gave kind of like a shout out to women like Hillary Clinton or Judy Bloom. And I'll take things from them and learn from them . And I've done that at any workplace I've ever had, I've done it with friends, I've done it with other bloggers recently and writers. And what I find is you can always learn from the greats, you know.
So find someone you admire and unofficially make her your mentor. And then, I'll also say pursue your passion. You know, pursue your passion. I think we get afraid when we get busy, life gets complicated, you have health issues, you have set backs. But finding your passion is key in life.
So I would say that if you are not... If your career is successful, it's taking off but isn't your passion, if you are not happy then you need to rethink what you are doing, you know. And if you are doing your passion, if you are extremely happy in your career. Then make sure you are doing it to the most elevated way you can do it in your life.
Nat: Amen. Amen. Yes. You know, Lia, is right. I think it's... I, for one have really evolved in my career because of mentors so... You know, someone out there has done it longer than you, better than you or has learned so much already that they can really guide you through that process.
Nat: So you know, find at least one mentor or you can have many mentors. It doesn't really matter. And you know, really finding passion out what you do because at the end of the day, I always felt that until I found my passion which now I've found with Wine with Nat. It was kind of like you were just... Yeah, you were moving ahead in life but it wasn't fulfilling at the end of the day.
Lia: It's like going through the motion.
Lia: Like when you are driving home and you get... You don't know how you got there.
Nat: Yes. You are like how did I get to this route.
Lia: It's all blur. You don't want life to be like that.
Nat: No. You are right.
Lia: You want to be very mindful and passionate and creative.
Nat: Well, Lia, thank you so much for being here today and sharing your story with all Wine with Nat viewers. And thank you to everyone that tuned in today and see you soon. Bye.