Allow yourself to be really seen: How vulnerability transforms your life
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.” - Dr. Brené Brown
Vulnerability means to allow yourself to be really seen without holding back for fear of rejection or judgment. It can be a terrifying thing. But it also has the power to transform your life.
Have you ever been scared to ask for help and support? Ask for what you want? Say what’s really on your mind and heart? Admit your imperfect parts (even your mistakes)? Well, me too. I can totally relate to the scary feeling of putting myself out there without the guarantee of acceptance, love and belonging.
I’ve recently circled back to Dr. Brené Brown’s book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. It’s a powerful read. After years of research, Dr. Brown explains the variables that it takes to be someone who has a strong sense of love and belonging:
1. Believing: that you are worthy of love and belonging
2. Courage: to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart, even the imperfect parts
3. Compassion: being kind to yourself first, then others
4. Connection: as a result of authenticity. Letting go of who you thought you should be, in order to embrace who you really are (the hard part).
I speak from personal experience here: vulnerability allows you to have a healthy connection with yourself and others.
5. Vulnerability: believe that what makes you vulnerable, while not comfortable, still makes you beautiful
We live in a world where so many people wear masks. They wear them to fit into a socially accepted role: good wife, good friend, good mother, good sister, good worker, etc.
For so many of us, we hide who we truly are because we’re scared that when we are really seen, it won’t be acceptable to society. That if those we love knew who we really were, we would be rejected.
But if there is one thing I’ve learned is that wearing a mask only damages you. It’s like living a lie. Confined to a space that you don’t belong –it’s suffocating! When in fact, the very thing you are protecting yourself from could be the source of your greatest strength.
Vulnerability: It could be your healing journey. Your source of inspiration to follow your dream and connect with others just like you. It could be the next big movement that helps others. Your courage to be vulnerable could be the very light that this world needs.
Vulnerability brought me to this space. It brought me to you. It was the birthplace of my brands and businesses. So let’s be courageous and vulnerable!